Hi Everyone,
I have been reciting this blog for a while now. Some of you will like it, meaning that you will “get it,” while others just won’t. This is what I mean.
Several months ago, as I was listening to someone tell me how one of their employees was not cooperating, I said, “She’s the help, she’s supposed to listen to you. Provided, that is, you’re not asking her to do anything unreasonable, like not part of her job description.” Of course the person I was speaking to just looked at me. “What?” I asked. “I’m here (at work). That makes me the help too! And now that I think about it, so are you by the way. I am serious.” And yes, that person looked at me again but allowed me to continue.
“We’re all the help. When you ask me to do something and I do it, I am helping you because whatever is done. There is one less thing for everyone to worry about. We can (all) move on to something else. I am also helping myself by keeping myself employed. (Insert smile!) My being employed helps me to pay my bills. And part of my job is to help other people. Your job is to help us, everyone who works here do our job so you can do your job which is a help to your boss so he can do his job and so on. All of that help is helping the economy which is helping everyone.” Because the person I was speaking to has known me for over a year, and we’ve had over 50 funky conversations, they understood what I meant. After we spoke, I did some more thinking.
One online dictionary defines help as, 1) to do something that makes it easier for someone to do a job, deal with a problem etc. 2) to aid or assist someone. 3) to make something less severe, to make something more pleasant or easier to deal with.
Okay so I am of the belief that people who are humble don’t mind helping others or behaving like what some people think of as “the help”. It is second nature to them because making life easier for others is part of their DNA. That does not mean that they allow others to take advantage of them. They don’t. They have boundaries.
In my (humble) opinion, when a person has an ego, they have a harder time helping others. In my experience, it is partly because they just think that they are so great to begin with, that how dare anyone ask them to do something, suggest something, question or (possibly) correct them. I am of the belief that when someone has an ego (the larger the worse) they tend to believe that others are there to serve them because they’re great and everyone else well—isn’t.
For anyone who doesn’t know, one acronym for EGO is Edging Greatness Out. And isn’t that what people do when they (chose to) forget that every one of us is here to help the other because each of us has at least one great quality? I am of the belief that people do. I am also of the belief that those same people (choose to) misunderstand the human condition thereby making jobs, things harder by not assisting someone and causing things to be more severe and unpleasant to deal with. When people (chose to) behave in that manner, I think we can all agree that not only are they not being helpful, they are also being selfish. But what do I know? I mean really? I’ve only had my nose buried in every genre of nonfiction, but war, for almost three decades.
Okay so just for the record, you know in case no one has figured it out, I am of the opinion that all of us are in fact the help. If, by chance, I am having a crummy day, I am just the help.
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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