Hi Everyone,
Despite St. Valentine’s Day being a few months ago, this blog is still timely. This is what I mean.
Whether you are a couple or (still) single, there is always someone we know who has a lot riding on St. Valentine’s Day, a holiday, an anniversary or birthday. Maybe the person they are with is demanding, needy, or just a pain because nothing is ever good enough. You get what I mean.
We may feel sorry for the person. But here is the thing, deep down, on some level people know, what they are getting into. Sure there are times when our senses are dulled. We may miss some or a lot of the clues that are readily available to others. “Really, you didn’t notice that?” is a popular question asked when people have a hard time believing that someone missed the obvious. And the obvious could be anything like a statement or a look. But when we think back, when we look, review the past, we see it, only of course if we want to look close enough.
Anaylizing someone else is easy. People do it all the time. Some waste endless hours, or days or in some cases years, dissecting seconds of their past only to place blame on what he or she did or didn’t do when they were in a relationship.
How many of us actually look at what we could, should or would have done differently? How many of us really look, analyze ourselves with the same microscope that we use on others? How many of us say, “I wanted to date them,” and take responsibility for the relationship? Because if we didn’t want to date them, we wouldn’t have. If we didn’t want a relationship with someone we wouldn’t have had one with them. It’s like they say, “It takes two to tango.” If someone stepped on your toes, it’s because you let them.
What inside of you wanted to be with them? What inside of you wanted you to miss the clues that everyone, but you saw? What inside of you needed to be with that person so badly, so desperately that you did any and every thing in your power to be with them? What inside of you let someone step on your toes, sometimes repeatedly? There is at least one thing.
If you are going to date someone, and then have a relationship with them, you are accepting them for who they are. That includes all of their known and unknown baggage. Keep in mind, they are accepting you too. It is easy to blame someone else when a relationship ends. But sometimes, the person we should really blame is ourselves.
St. Valentine’s Day is once a year yet it can have a lasting effect. If you want a good to great relationship, look at yourself. You may be the one to blame for relationships ending badly.
As a side note, if the person you want doesn’t want you, move on, you just look desperate and well, stupid if you start to say or do negative things in an effort to drag others down.
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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