Hi Everyone,
One day last week I emailed someone and said, “I HAVE to “lawyer-up” and FAST!!! The next morning I remembered something interesting. This is what I mean,
Anytime someone would basically tell me, “You HAVE to (do)….” I would tell them, “Technically, I don’t have to do anything. Seriously. If I don’t want to clean my apartment, pay my bills, shower, or raise my daughter, I can decide not to. Everything in life is a choice. You can tell me I HAVE to do something all you want, but I’m here to tell you, I don’t.”
So do I have to as I affectionately call it, “lawyer-up?” No. If I decided not to then I would most likely fail. Failure is an option for other people. I am different.
I could pay another lawyer to help me help myself, but my case is what lawyers classify as, “high risk.” That means that I’d have to pay BIG BUCKS and I still may hire a lawyer who will not care about case as much as I do.
Since I’ve already been THAT negative financial road twice, because JUST so everyone knows, I’ve PAID the two legal aid lawyers that were hired by the province of Ontario, to help me help myself and well, in my opinion, they didn’t help me help myself a whole lot. So I’ve decided to “lawyer-up.”
Part of that meant I had to do A LOT of digging, because the only person who is going to care about my case as much as me is ME, MYSELF and I!!! And that everyone is only ONE of MANY UNVARNISHED TRUTHS!!! While I am at it, here’s another.
After I LABOURED for THREE DAYS STRAIGHT over ALL of the blameworthy conduct of my daughter’s father, I went to the FLIC office and waited a few hours. Honestly, I was okay with that. All I wanted to do was to have the legal aid lawyer review what I had been working on. I had ALL of my three copies ready. In case I had to make any changes, my flash stick was in my hand bag. If by chance I needed to change a few things, I was going to go the library, then head back to the courthouse, after that I was going to serve my papers, and back to the courthouse. I had it all worked out. Or so I thought.
Once in the legal aid office, I pulled out all of my paperwork and asked the legal aid lawyer to check it over. She suggested a few things and then she said, “Oh, yea, your case is the tough one.” I agreed. Now just so everyone knows, I actually like this legal aid lawyer. I’ve had her before and she remembered me and my case. Then she gave me the UNVARNISHED TRUTH.
She told me that I may be asking for too much disclosure, that a judge may look at what I have LABOURED over for THREE DAYS STRAIGHT and possibly dismiss everything AND that I may be made to pay costs!!! I tell her that I need FULL disclosure on everything including the audio and video equipment because if my daughter’s father had, as he claimed on a financial statement, $8,000 worth of audio and video equipment when he was (supposedly) unemployed and living in parent’s basement in 1996, than he has to have a HELL of lot more money invested in audio and video equipment now. When he posted an online realty advertisement, I saw two flat screen TV’s and two stereos!
She understands. But what I deem as important in order to determine his economic position may not be important to the judge. She also told me that because “too much time has passed” that I may lose my case altogether. That’s when I LOST IT.
“Look, I already know how THIS works! A lawyer, who specializes in tax law, gets recommended to be a judge and then they “try,” family law cases! Maybe that’s what Judge (_____) was before she did family law, because the way I see it, she didn’t do her job! If she did, then she would have questioned how my daughter’s father had $1,892 in AFTER TAX EXPENSES when he was supposedly unemployed, had NO MONEY coming in and living in his parent’s basement in 1996 BEFORE she SLASHED my child support to LESS THAN HALF!
“This GUY has been getting away with EVERYTHING FOREVER!!! In my opinion, he’s the POSTER CHILD for DEAD BEAT PARENTS!!! I have EVIDENCE of his blameworthy conduct since 1996! This is a very UNJUST JUSTICE system we have. Third world countries have a BETTER system than we do!”
As sympathetic as she was, there is not a lot she can do. My daughter’s father, someone who has made over $320,000 in real estate, plus God knows what else, because he, in my opinion, PLAYED our justice system like a finely tuned fiddle, may actually win. I would just like to remind everyone, that he withheld child support for 18.42 months so he could, in my opinion, use the child support money he was supposed to pay for his down payment on his first brand new house! And he made a gross profit of over $125,000 on that house and his second house had OVER $100,000 in upgrades! I have ALL the EVIDENCE to prove it too!
Really province of ONTARIO? Really citizens of Canada? Is this what we are going to ALLOW to happen? Are we just going to sit back and think, “Oh, that’s too bad, so sad, if ONLY we could we change the laws.” Well guess what!!! We can! Because he gets away with this, it is a LICENSE for every other DEAD BEAT PARENT to get away with it too! And that everyone would be a TRAVESTY!!! It would be a travesty to any and everyone who is and has been in my situation!
So there you have it! ALL of our taxpaying dollars are going to PROTECT the very people who REPEATEDLY break the laws, because they have found NUMEROUS ways of slipping through the ever-widening gaps of our (UNJUST) JUSTICE system! Thank you so much province of Ontario! I, like many others before me, have put our TRUST into your hands! Thank you for wiping your hands clean of a messy situation that you helped create! Thank you so much for the UNVARNISHED TRUTH!!! This is the world we live in! Now I’m going to have to do a HELL of a lot more “lawyer-up.” if I want justice!
If no one could tell, I’m pretty pissed off! You know, police will invest a lot of money in terms of man hours, DNA testing, time in court etc. to solve a murder from 20 years ago, you know a “cold-case” just so they can get justice for the family and society as a whole. In fact, they may not even have a lot of evidence to do that. I have ALL the evidence there is to have, but that still may not help me help myself and other people in my situation.
The next blog will be long, so there’s your head’s up everyone.
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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