Hi Everyone,
Last night someone told me that one of my relatives in Hungary died. At first I had no idea who they were talking about. This is because I erased their presence from mind years ago to the point that, to me, they and their children don’t exist. Why? Well, I know what they did and I know what they continue to do.
Their moral compass is so out of whack that they tried to involve me in something that would have cost them their livelihood AND COST me and my daughter our dual citizenship. I am not kidding. I am VERY serious. The law is the law and every country that I know abides by that one! That was a defining moment. This is a very complicated story that they have chosen to write for themselves.
Since I agree with very little that they do, I am not popular at all and I am more than okay with that. But because there are other people involved that I care about, I dutifully called two of my relatives.
When I couldn’t reach my favourite aunt, I called my favourite cousin. As we spoke he told me that this person suffered a great deal and that caused the other members of the family to also suffer. I agreed. That person did suffer for decades and all members of their family also suffered. I remember how much I suffered when I was living in Hungary and was in their presence. And then I said a fact that everyone in the family knows but never talks about.
My cousins’ response was, “Yes, that didn’t help.” Then he said, “We have a saying, in Hungary, ‘If you can’t say anything nice about the dead, don’t say anything.’ ” Knowing that my cousin and I felt the same way I decided to not to remind him of another Hungarian saying. It is, “God doesn’t beat you with a stick,” meaning that what comes around goes around or KARMA WILL GET YOU!!!!!
Now I don’t know how anyone who is reading this blog feels about God or Karma yet I know how I feel. Negative Karma and the repercussions of it have made me question a lot of things in my life, which have kept me out of a lot of trouble and misery. It is no mystery to me why that family has suffered and will continue to suffer.
But now I am reminding myself of another Hungarian saying which doesn’t sound right when it is translated so bear with me. It is, “Don’t paint the Devil on the wall.” It may sound weird but the meaning is pretty powerful.
Here are a few examples of what it means.
1) Don’t call in sick when you aren’t because you will end up sicker than you ever thought you could be.
2) Don’t think that you are all that or get too big for your britches because life will humble you faster than you can say humble and you will live in that state for longer than you thought.
3) Don’t brag about something because it will be swiftly and unexpectedly taken away from you. You can and should be proud of your accomplishments, just be humble about them.
After I speak with my favourite cousin, I call my favourite aunt. She tells me the person suffered, who was there when they died, and that there are lots of wreaths. Because my aunt is 82 I say nice things at first. Then I ask the question. “We don’t talk about that!” is her stern reply. I think to myself, fine we won’t talk about it.
Technically blood is thicker than water. But I believe that we should all consider just how much blood, if any, we want on our hands. And that blood doesn’t have to be from an actually family by the way.
God doesn’t beat you with a stick. What comes around goes around and Karma will get you AND those you love for generations. We all have a choice. So before you decide to enter into something that you normally would not agree to, I suggest you question the motives of others including your own. There are some really great salespeople out there who are looking out only for themselves.
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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