Hi Everyone,
Before you start reading this blog, I’m just going to tell you that if you read and didn’t like Tuesday’s or Wednesday’s blog, stop reading this one right now and don’t bother reading tomorrow’s blog either. I am serious. All four blogs have the same theme, so that’s your head’s up. For anyone who is still interested and thinks that this or the other blogs would help them or someone they know, you could always recommend it. ;D Here’s today’s blog.
In yesterday’s blog I mentioned that I had a conversation with someone. After I told them about a conversation with my daughter I told them that I actually know a mother who, years ago, told me that she called her daughter’s university and spoke to the Dean. This is why.
According to her, her daughter should have got a higher mark because she was under stress at the time. In her mind, the school should have understood her daughter’s unique situation and should have taken that into consideration when marking her daughter’s paper.
When I heard the mother tell me her very angry feelings about this, I just thought, “Wow. That is really scary. Just how is she going cope in THAT work environment? She’s in her early twenties.” Without her mother’s continued help with EVERYTHING, I am thinking that the young woman eventually won’t be able to cope with anything.
From what I understand, the mother has coddled her daughter ALL of her life! But that mother, father and family, are not alone.
SO many parents want to protect their children from what they think/believe are the injustices of the, “Big Bad World.” I understand that. I am a parent. BUT, BUT there has to come a point when parents NEED to accept the fact that their child is growing up or in some cases grown up! Someone has to permanently cut the umbilical cord, and the sooner, the better.
The scariest part of the above scenario is that it is not an isolated incident. In fact it has now become a GLOBAL ISSUE. This is what I mean.
There are parents all over the world who want to protect their children from everything! The best way for them to do that is be a BIG, HUGE part of their child’s life. It has been documented that there are parents who will not only go to their child’s place of work and help them organize their desks, BUT ALSO complain to their employer if the parent deems that their child was treated unfairly. I am serious.
A growing number of parents have taken it upon themselves to call their child’s employer complaining that they believe their child should have gotten a raise or a better raise, more sick days, and asking for additional special privileges etc. These are most likely the same parents who called their child’s school, asking for special treatment. If they could convince the school(s), why not try the employer too must be their thinking.
When I heard that my first thought was, “ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!? I’m nipping that in bud right now by ONLY hiring contract workers with a clause stating that if one of their parents or relatives calls me complaining that they think so and so should have gotten whatever, even once, they’re gone! No questions asked, no answers given. Bye!” (Just for the record, contract work generally doesn’t include any benefits. A lack of benefits is an out of pocket cost for the contract employee.)
My second thought was, “If an employee cannot or perhaps will not learn the skills to speak up for themselves, learn the art of negotiating, and/or the other skills needed to perform their job properly, then why are they here again? Problem solving is skill used in every job. It is also a life skill.If an employee can’t solve problems, then the company is going to have a problem with the employee. Problems cost money.”
Just how is any business supposed to run efficiently or at full capacity when some of its employees are fielding calls from parents complaining that their child, the other employees of the company, should have whatever the parents think? A business is a business! It is not day care or kindergarten. But this does not end there.
The cost of coddling one’s child is rapidly affecting the economic well-being of countries! Since we all live in a global economy, the cost of coddling is slowly becoming a global issue.
If you don’t already know what I mean, read tomorrow’s blog. Some of you may want to buckle-up though.
Here are the links for the first two blogs that I warned everyone about at the beginning of this blog. The first is called, Think Again! Here’s the link, http://arebelsrant.com/think-again/
The second is called, You’re Not That Great. Here’s the link for that one, http://arebelsrant.com/youre-not-that-great/
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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