Hi Everyone,
Sometimes, when I don’t have time, doing what I think are “girlie things” drives me crazy. So while I was doing my nails, something I didn’t have time for and they are still not completely done, I decided to watch/listen to Katie Couric. Yesterday’s episode was on things that drive her and her audience crazy.
At the beginning of the show, I agreed with most of the statements/comments. And then the conversation lead to sex. Apparently some people aren’t getting enough, are too tired to have any or just aren’t happy with what their getting. The show provided a blog to reference in times of need.
Before I searched for the blog, I called my Ex. He was still in his meeting so I left a message, began the search and read some blog posts. Some of them drove me crazy!
After a few minutes of reading I was so pissed off that I stopped in an effort to maintain my sanity. Questions like, “How could they not know that?” “Are you kidding me? Women are buying into THAT?” “And just how am I going to get THAT time back?” Thankfully my Ex called me back within a few minutes.
Him—“What was that? A TV show or website?”
Me—“It’s a blog that was on a TV show. And I read some of it but had to stop. It was driving me crazy.”
I told him about some of the blog posts and how a woman on the panel had said that 95% of sex starts in the brain. (I mentioned this a blog called, Are You Ready For Valentine’s Day. Here’s the link, http://arebelsrant.com/are-you-ready-for-valentines-day/) I also told him that she was one of the brighter bulbs. He agreed. Sex or lack thereof, starts in the brain. Period.
Then he told me that he felt bad for women who have never had an orgasm.
Me—“Yea, but I believe that some women should “feel” men out before they have sex with them. Like if I have to open the door, he expects me to pay half or all for dinner or lunch, make the plans, call first, (I BARELY, RARELY call my Ex and I am serious) whatever a MAN is supposed to do, then that is a PRETTY good indication that he is going to be a selfish lover.” On a side note: In my opinion, women should pay on special occasions because men like to be treated well too. I just thought I would put that in there to remind some women that men are also human.
“We almost always went out to nice restaurants for lunch, dinner, you wrote me love letters all the time, complimented me a lot, (he still does), and (all of the other things which I am keeping private) before we even did anything. And I really loved that. Now if you kept forgetting to pick up a bag of milk, or if we had an argument, then I probably wouldn’t want to have sex with you. It’s that physiological thing. This is a two-way street.” Again he agreed with me. (Just for the record we barely argued. We had different points of view perhaps but I did use that word in our conversation.)
“So if the woman doesn’t pick up on the “signals” and picks the wrong guy, then it is kind of her fault that she is not having an orgasm. She picked a selfish lover. But then again some men are clueless. Some of them really don’t know what to do. Even after you tell them, most of them still can’t get it right.”
Him—“Maybe they don’t want to learn.” I agreed.
Me—“Some men don’t want to learn. That’s why they are selfish lovers.”
Him—“And your heart has be in it….”
Me—“You have a great heart.” Obviously there was more to our conversation but I am ending it here. ;D
If you want to learn more about physiology and how it can affect a relationship, then I STRONGLY SUGGEST that you read Naomi Wolf’s book called, “Vagina: A New Biography.” Allan Gregg interviewed her about the book, here is the link, http://arebelsrant.com/allan-gregg-in-conversation/
This is a rant. If you don’t know why, I STRONGLY SUGGEST you do some soul searching. Two great books to help, or stop women from being doormats can be found in a blog I posted called, The BITCH Books. Here’s the link, http://arebelsrant.com/the-bitch-books-d/
Thank you for reading A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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