Hi Everyone,
Overall I would have to say that I’m independent, maybe even too independent. That is not the most attractive trait for a woman to have by the way. Some men find it intimidating. That’s one downfall to being independent. Another is that independent women don’t generally ask for help unless they HAVE to. We think, believe that we can do everything. For the most part we can. I can square a circle.
If I have a problem, I solve it. Granted there are times when I am tested. It’s not always easy to square a circle, but I manage. But that’s the other downfall to being independent. When people already know that you can figure the seemingly impossible things out, need little to no help they leave you to your own devices. Then men go and help the “woman” who couldn’t fight her way out of a sopping wet paper bag!
Beware of the damsels in distress men. After you save her from whatever, all you’ll be left with is a stressed out damsel! Don’t believe me if you want. But I just checked my birth certificate so I know for a fact that I wasn’t born yesterday! Some women are only happy when they are making others unhappy, or when there is DRAMA in their lives. (Here’s a link to a blog I posted called, Dealing with DRAMA, http://arebelsrant.com/dealing-with-drama-2/) DRAMA equals HIGH MAINTENANCE!!!
Interestingly I sometimes yearn to be “that woman.” Every couple of years I wish I had it in me. Then that fleeting thought passes and I am grateful for being independent. At least I can take care of myself. Plus, my thinking is that one day I’ll met Mr. Wonderful and we can live interdependently. THAT would be PERFECT!!! But life isn’t perfect.
One day about a month ago, when I was on the phone with THE EX, (because that’s exactly what he was that day!) he asked me how my day was going. I told him. Then I told him a few other things, one being how I didn’t always like being independent. Then I asked him if he thought independent women can get stepped on because men know independent women can take care of themselves. He said yes. He either didn’t get the hint or he decided to ignore it. Either way it was NOT COOL!
I will admit I was having a bad day. Last time I checked I was human. Not only did I not like how my day was going, I also didn’t like my tone of voice. So yea, I was, “Bitter Betty,” but that’s a rarity. Like once or twice a YEAR! I guess he forgot. It’s been a while.
It’s just that, that day I seriously just wanted to talk it out. After all, I was born a female. I’ve had all the parts since birth. That’s something else a birth certificate says by the way. THE EX said a few things, and wanted to know what I was doing later. I guess he didn’t like my answer or my tone of voice. I was pretty stressed out so I get it.
Since everyone has a stress reliever I decided to address mine in the best way I know how. So I did what anyone woman in her right mind would do. When my imagination failed me, I grabbed a book. Desperate times called for desperate measures, so I grabbed THAT book. The one I rarely read, but refuse to give up. (For anyone who doesn’t know what I mean, here’s a link to, Are You Ready For Valentine’s Day?, http://arebelsrant.com/are-you-ready-for-valentines-day/)
In a matter of minutes I was back to my happy place and I just got happier as the week went on. Funny how everything works out when an independent woman puts her mind something. Let’s fast track to yesterday.
Yesterday I cried. This is rare, like once every 2-4 years. I hate crying. I didn’t cry for any great length of time, because I also think crying is a waste of time. My crying lasted about 10 seconds, tops. BUT, BUT, it was the fourth time in less than 3 weeks. Why? Well, once again, I believe that I have been left to my own devices and I DON’T LIKE IT ONE BIT! Society, in my opinion, has it all wrong. Independent women should be revered not rejected!
Before I bore everyone by going on about this, I’ve decided to stop here. Think of it as my looking out for everyone’s sanity. Besides, I have another busy day of things I don’t want, but must do. And of course, I’ll be addressing them by myself!
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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