Hi Everyone,
Sometimes I think that some men think that I am hitting on them when I’m not. This is an interesting situation which usually occurs while I am smoking a cigarette.
I, like most people who smoke, am smoking a cigarette because I in some way, shape or form need a cigarette. I might be having a “nic fit,” need some “fresh air” ;D or am bored out of my skull, which is another reason smokers smoke. Any of the above reasons will have me outside smoking and I, like most smokers, will stand with other smokers. Here is where it gets interesting.
For whatever reason, if there is one or more guys there, (I honestly can’t call them men when they behave like children) I will speak with them. I do this because that is what smokers do. We tend to speak with each other. Most of those verbal exchanges revolve around whatever is going on at the moment.
But some of those guys, most of those guys, get this “thing” in their head that makes me think that they think I am hitting on them. This is what I mean.
After a few seconds a guy will say something like, “My wife and I….” or, “My girlfriend and I….” This is where I think, “Does he think I am hitting on him?” Even though I sometimes think, that I think they might think I am hitting on them, I don’t want to assume that they are, even if they are assuming that I am hitting on them. (Here is a link to a blog called, IF You Are Assuming Something Stop!, http://arebelsrant.com/if-you-are-assuming-something-stop-it/ )
My next thought is usually, “Good, I’m glad that you are with someone, because there is no way in hell that I would date or consider dating you, not in this or any lifetime! He’s got quite the ego to think that! This guy? He thinks he’s a prize, ah, no. When was the last time he looked in the mirror? Seriously, just who does he think he is? Does he do this every time a female speaks to him? And who is going to help him get his over inflated ego back into the building?” And then, in my head, I start with the reasons as to why.
The first reason is physical attraction. Well, I would just like to say that I have two types of men that I find physically attractive and both of those types are vastly different and both of them look like the two great loves of my life. In fact, when my ex and I were discussing our future, I told him that I would like to find someone just like him, looks, everything minus his desire (or need) to conquer his world which takes a lot of time. Why be in a relationship and be alone? (There is a blog related to this called, Mr. Wonderful. Here’s the link, http://arebelsrant.com/mr-wonderful/ )
The second reason is intellect. Both of my great loves were very intelligent in vastly different ways. A lot of men that I meet either don’t show their intellect or just aren’t intelligent. Determining how intelligent a person is usually done with the words they chose to speak.
So this blog is my way of making it ABUNDANTLY CLEAR that if I am speaking with someone that is all that I am doing, speaking. I, just like everyone else, have my own criteria or standards of looks, remember the first thing that people notice about others, among other things and very, very few people meet them.
In all of my years of retail, film, or just being out and about, I’ve only met one man while at work who I would have liked to get to know better and I saw a really hot man pass me at work one day. That’s it. I admit I am very picky when it comes to men. I look for a lot of things. Here is another.
Most of the guys who I think, think that I am hitting on them lack a very key ingredient that separates the guys from the men. It is etiquette. People who know some of the rules of etiquette politely obey them even if it is at their expense. They don’t say things even when they are thinking them. Like, “Good, I’m glad that you are with someone, because there is no way in hell that I would date or consider dating you in this or any lifetime etc.” The people who follow the rules of etiquette do not make another person feel uncomfortable in situations, which is the whole point of etiquette by the way.
Men who have etiquette don’t mention their wife or girlfriend when we are speaking. They leave after their cigarette and immediately sit beside their wife or girlfriend. They do this because they have learned the most basic rules of etiquette which is not to make people feel uncomfortable and not to assume things. Those men are intelligent enough to know that when people speak with each other that is all it is. But if it was more, they also know they can handle the situation. That speaks volumes. They also don’t want to make fools of themselves etc. That is what people do when they assume things and disobey the rules of etiquette. (I posted a blog called, Can Etiquette Be Evil? Here’s the link, http://arebelsrant.com/can-etiquette-be-evil/ )
This is a very polite rant. But it comes with a caveat which is, the rules of etiquette are rules. Some rules were made to be broken. One day, I may actually allow what I am thinking to escape my lips.
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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