Hi Everyone,
Genetically I lucked out BIG TIME!!! I’ve known that for more than two-thirds of my life and have always been very grateful.
From my mother I inherited low-to-no maintenance curly hair, a small frame and a very high metabolism. From my father I inherited a pretty low-to-no maintenance physique. Muscles have memory so I really don’t have to work out to look like I do. If anyone saw me, they may think that I waste a lot of time on the above but I don’t. Again, I am very lucky. Both of my parents’ genes have contributed in other ways too, but I am keeping those to myself. 🙂
Now I may be low-to-no maintenance in the above and more ways, but when it comes to scarring I take every precaution. Why? Because I am vain. This is what I mean.
The weather has been warm since my surgery and it has gotten warmer, or well, hot! Normally I dress appropriately but because I want to lessen the visibility of my soon to be scar, I’ve been wearing clothes to keep that part of my body out of the sun. At times, my vanity has garnered some strange looks and/or comments from people who see me.
For the most part, I hide behind my sunglasses and play deaf. By doing this, my success rate for avoiding an explanation (or whatever) as to why I am dressed as I am has been high. But hiding behind sunglasses and playing deaf only goes so far.
Someone who knew when I had surgery and where just gave me a very detailed weather report. At first I thought about reminding her why I was dressed the way I was, but thought better of it. She, unlike most people I have encountered lately, was trying to help me, obviously forgot I had surgery and will probably remember at some point. Besides I didn’t want to upset our mutual friend she was with. I simply thanked her and kept walking.
As I walked away I thought, “There we go again.” Then I thought, if there were words on everyone’s forehead or floating above everyone’s heads stating things like, “I just had surgery, that’s why….,” or, “I’m a single mom/dad trying to make ends meet, that’s why….,” or, “I’m grieving because… please excuse me if….” or, “The world is crashing down on me…” or, whatever the person is going through, maybe people would keep their strange looks and/or comments to themselves. But then I remembered that we are all human, myself included.
We forget things. We get lost in our own lives. We are all busy however we decide to define that. We can be apathetic to the needs of others BUT somehow feel the need to give strange looks and/or comments.
And that is the point of today’s blog. There are reasons why people do what they do. Everyone, including you, will go through something that will not always be good or fun. In fact, each of us will go through something that will be bad or ugly. If that hasn’t already happened, that’s your head’s up.
As long as you and/or the people you are with are not being harmed or people haven’t crossed any boundaries, try to keep your strange looks and/or comments to yourself and move on.
This can be difficult, I know. One day I almost screamed when I saw something on someone. Each of us has visual images and memories we would like erased from our minds, my chosen attire is not one.
If you really need to tell someone something that has upset you, please do it in private. As perfect as some of us may think we are, we just aren’t. And that includes me.
My vanity has given me a better understanding of the human condition.
Here’s a link to a past blog called, If You’re Assuming Something Stop IT!!!, http://arebelsrant.com/if-you-are-assuming-something-stop-it/
Thank you for reading, A. Rebel’s Rant! ;D
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