Revealing the Hidden Message ;D

Hi Everyone,

The purpose of yesterday’s blog was to see just how many people would leave their comfort zone to do something they normally wouldn’t do.

Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on how you want to look at things, I had very accurately predicted the number of people who would go to yesterday’s blog (here’s the link, http://arebelsrant.com/hardtalk-imf/ ) and it was less than the number of people who read, What Drives You Crazy? (http://arebelsrant.com/what-drives-you-crazy/ ) In fact, I wrote down a number and was slightly off. This kind of pissed me off and this is why.

Quality men want, crave and desire quality women. PERIOD. (An example of a quality woman would be Christine Lagarde.) Quality men also want, crave and desire a quality woman that they can PUT and KEEP on a pedestal. But quality men are very tricky because they are VERY, VERY picky. They KNOW EXACTLY what they want, crave and desire so when they find that quality woman they will go to GREAT lengths to keep her.

There is a saying, “The bigger the bag, the smaller the butt.” This means that your butt will look smaller if your handbag is bigger and the bigger the handbag the better. I believe the bigger the brain the better the chance everyone has of finding a quality man.

Now if you have already seen or know me, than you would also know that my butt is pretty small. However, I am VERY picky and I LOVE a BIG PEDESTAL and I know one when I see one. I also LOVE staying there. (And yes, this is for you! I know you read my blog(s) everyday. I will be emailing you later today. The subject line will be S.D.)

But let’s face some facts. Quality men are hard to come by. Quality men are not ordinary because they are extraordinary! PERIOD. And that’s what SEPARATES a quality man from an ordinary one.

Anyone can find and have a relationship with another ordinary person. If you want that, great. I have different standards. They are higher than most and the pedestal is BIG. HUGE in fact. But everyone is different.

And quality men want, crave and desire a different woman. Someone who not only has a brain, but is not afraid to use it. If our grey matter isn’t moving, we’re not interesting. That equals boring and boring is well, boring. Who wants that? Answer, very few people. Here is what I mean.

So on Monday morning my Ex calls me on the TELEPHONE and asks me what I am doing. I told him I was watching the videos for yesterday’s blog. This is what happened. He said, “Oh. (slight pause) That’s very interesting,” and paused longer. That’s when I started telling him why I was watching the videos.

BUT, BUT there was something in his voice. I could hear it. His grey matter, his brain was telling him as he spoke and PAUSED, “This GREAT woman has a bit more going on than I thought. Interesting, very interesting. I wonder what else I don’t know about her. I NEED to know more!”

Since we know each other INCREDIBLY WELL and that’s saying a lot he was still impressed that he discovered something NEW about me. I am now more interesting and different from others and THAT peaked his interest.

Periodically I will ask my Ex something about what he does. Something that he wouldn’t expect me to ask about but is thrilled that I asked. When I ask him whatever, I can hear a complete change in his voice and in my mind’s eye I can see his eyes light up. He sounds like a kid on Christmas morning, who just opened his most coveted gift.

Now I really do care about what my Ex does. As he told me it is part of his DNA. If it is important to him, it is important to me too, even if I don’t always understand exactly what he does. All that matters is that it is important whether I understand it or not.

And that is EXACTLY why he is very happy to explain the answer to me. I am not in his brain, but by the sound of his voice I believe that he thinks my question is interesting because I took interest in what he does.

I FOUND SOMETHING TO LET HIM KNOW I CARE. With what he does it wasn’t easy even for me. Perhaps that’s why he is always so happy when I ask him a question. ;D

After he answers my question(s) I say something like, “Thank you, I really appreciate that. So is it ….” I do that to show more interest and to let him know that I can connect the dots with other information pertaining to our conversation or his profession.

For any time that I can’t come up with a question I tell him that I appreciate him and why. I thank him and tell him why. I listen to him and then I reply in whatever way I decide to. Women, like men are humans. We NEED to hear the above and more! Like all the time.

IF I believe that he has forgotten something, I subtly remind him that my grey matter is moving and that it is on a different level than he expected. Like a higher level. Anytime we are speaking with each other I’ll throw in a pun to keep it fun. I subtly remind him when I am resourceful and that I can handle things too. VERY and I do mean very few men of any kind, want to take of, or babysit anyone especially the person they want, or are in a relationship with.

Great quality men need to know that the woman they CHOSE to be with, because it is a choice, can and will take care of herself and him IF and ONLY IF she had to. This is because a great quality man wants, craves and desires to take care of the woman he is with, in ANY WAY he can and MORE!

He will profess his love in every way, protect her from everything real or imagined, and provide for her in the best way possible. In fact, he NEEDS, CRAVES and DESIRES to do all of the above and he will create ways to do them. Her needs and wants always come before his. Why? Because men just like women, want a great love story and men, just like women want it to last! He believes she wants love letters he writes them. This could be more for himself but either way it works. (My Ex is a very sensitive, very caring man, he wrote me love letters first.)

Expected or unexpected reservations for lunch or dinner at a nice or super nice restaurant, perfect. More time for other things than grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning up, etc. It’s dress-up time. Everyone is happy. Everyone has their priorities straight.

When I speak with my Ex I leave the shallow, the stupid and the petty stuff OUT. Sure I have told him that I am waiting for my mascara to dry and why. Or that I am waiting for my moisturizer to sink in before I put my make-up on or something like that, but that’s it.

I do that once in a while to remind him that I am a woman who takes care of herself. More importantly I rarely (have to) do that. Why? WE have more IMPORTANT things to discuss then, “Can you believe she did…!”, “I CAN’T stand it when they do…!” or something else along those lines.

If I told my Ex that I, or if he saw me, wasting over 2 minutes deciding on nail polish, he would wait patiently, probably give me his opinion, whether I wanted it or not, and pay for it.

BUT, BUT in his head he would be thinking, “Are you KIDDING ME!?! It’s NAIL POLISH!!! If it took her over 2 minutes to decide on NAIL POLISH, she CLEARLY can’t make a decision because she doesn’t know what she wants!”

Men would rather paint a wall and watch it dry, cut the grass on the hottest day of the year with NO beer in the fridge or freezer, break something impossible for them to fix and spend all day trying to fix it with their friends they have called to help, (or worst case scenario go to their friends place just to get away from us), than hear or do all or any of the above etc.

That is WHY and HOW they separate the ordinary women from the extraordinary, just like we ALL SHOULD be doing with them.

The best way that I have found to do this is to PAY VERY and I do mean very CLOSE ATTENTION TO EVERYTHING a new man in my life does before anything happens between the sheets so to speak. I HIGHLY recommend that everyone do this too.

If he is going to be selfish in any way, shape or form or have me do things that HE SHOULD be doing, I am on RED ALERT!!! The RED LIGHTS are FLASHING and the RED FLAGS are WAVING!!! ALL OF THEM!!!

Why? Because my level of happiness depends on it. Interestingly, my level of happiness also translates into his level of happiness. That also means our quality of life by the way. (Just saying.)

Is this a rant? ABSOLUTELY!!!

Expand your mind and you will expand your horizons.

Great quality men are out there. I have met them and I can honestly tell you, they LOVE a woman with a brain that works at the very least at 95% capacity.

If your brain is working at 5% capacity that is a decision YOU DECIDED to make. That is YOUR FAULT. SO stop bitching, because that is EXACTLY what it is, every time a quality man chooses someone else. You did it to yourself.

For anyone who would like to read some of my blogs relating to relationships this is what I have blogged about in the past.