Grandparents Raising Their Grandchildren

Why A Blog On Rants?

Hi Everyone,

You know, I am just like everyone else. There are some days when I just want to get back to my happy place. I am telling you this because, in my opinion, my last blog was too nice. When I first heard of Ethan Couch and his getting way with what he did, I almost blew a gasket! I was so pissed off! But like I said, I wanted to get back to my happy place. Today’s blog is not going to be nice. It is going to be the truth as I know it. And as we all know, the truth can hurt. Here is today’s blog.

Life is not perfect. Things, good and bad, happen to each of us all the time. People pass away. Sometimes two people pass away at the same time, like in an accident. Sometimes those two people are parents. If they had a will and had one or more guardians for their children then they would have chosen who their children will be raised by. But that doesn’t always happen. There’s your head’s up, if you are a parent. Get a will and figure out who the best person or people would be to raise your children if anything should happen to you. That’s one scenario as to why grandparents raise their grandchildren.

Another is that the one or more parent is incapable of raising their children. This could be for a variety of reasons. Drug and alcohol abuse are the most common. Being fiscally irresponsible, being incarcerated, are other examples.

My thinking has always been this. There is a very good reason people become who they become. If a child has been allowed to do whatever they have ever wanted and not learned even a sliver of responsibility, empathy, etc., it is generally a lack of proper parenting. If a parent wasn’t raised properly, or has a few screws loose, it is no mystery to me why they can’t properly raise their own children.

Now what I have always found interesting is that even though parents have raised as some have called, “train wrecks,” they somehow believe that they are qualified to raise the child of, “the train wreck,” that they created. I am serious. That to me is a societal recipe for disaster! I am serious about that too! If a grandparent can’t raise their child properly, why do they want to raise their grandchild? To ruin another life? Think about that.

For anyone who doesn’t know what grandparents are known for, let me refresh your memory. It is spoiling their grandchildren! Few parents want to give their child less than they had growing up. Fewer grandparents want their grandchild to have less than their own children. I had to say few parents because there are selfish people out there. Dead beat parents, who only look out for themselves are great examples. They are generally, “a train wreck” raised by parents who didn’t want to hurt their feelings and just wanted them to be “happy” even if it is at the expense of others.

And while I’m at it, some parents raise more than one, “train wreck,” and can’t figure out why? Really? If your one or more children are, “a train wreck,” here’s another head’s up. The common denominator is you! You, and the people you have allowed, chosen to be in your life and the life of your one or more children. Granted, there are rare instances when this is not the case. Rare is the key word.

Another thing that I’ve found interesting is that few parents want to admit their short-comings. I get that. Not everyone wants to be corrected. I am okay with being corrected. I may not always like it, but I know it will help me grow as a person. Personal growth is good. People who chose personal growth are, to many minds, growing up.

So before any grandparents decide they want to raise their one or more grandchildren, I strongly suggest you grow up! You know before you raise another, “train wreck”! Stop allowing your child and grandchild to get away with murder. Stop with your own pity party. Stop spreading the inevitable misery. Get some help for everyone. It is one thing to say someone’s, “a train wreck,” it’s another to explain why! The truth fears no questions. Fess up and learn to be accountable for at least your actions. I am serious.

Anytime I thought my daughter needed to be reminded of one’s actions, I would tell her a saying I made up. It is, “Everyone is an example, even if they are a bad one!” If I thought she needed an example that pertained to our conversation I’d give her at least one.

I firmly believe that if parents had some of their feelings in check and had a moral compass that they shared with their one or more children, that there would be little to no need for grandparents to raise their grandchildren. Tragedies are exceptions. With that said I am of the opinion, that it is a societal tragedy to allow irresponsibility to continue. There is a very good reason there are so many people on varying forms of social assistance. After all, someone has to, “take care of people,” when their parents decided not to. And it is a decision by the way.

For anyone who needs an example of why some grandparents should not raise their grandchildren, here is a link to The Fifth Estate’s episode called, Failing Jeffrey. It aired in April 2006 and it is 41:21 minutes in length. This story has been in the news this year. Although I have not followed it closely, I did watch the video. I trust you will too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-jF2p_dAYFA

If anyone has a problem with today’s blog then they have at least one problem. Who knows, maybe they are one of the, “Supposed Sane People,” that like to drive everyone insane with their wrong headedness. If you have read this far, please read a little farther. This and all of my blogs are copyrighted. Just saying!

Here are some links that relate to this blog,

http://arebelsrant.com/train-wreck-spotting/

http://arebelsrant.com/what-is-the-cost-of-dead-beat-parents/

http://arebelsrant.com/respect-your-elders/

http://arebelsrant.com/the-supposed-sane-people/

http://arebelsrant.com/do-you-know-a-little-boy/

http://arebelsrant.com/tv-show-the-trouble-next-door/

http://arebelsrant.com/the-truth-really-does-hurt/

http://arebelsrant.com/page-161-or-chapter-10-paragraph-10/

http://arebelsrant.com/family-day-on-friday/

http://arebelsrant.com/being-right/

http://arebelsrant.com/the-names-the-same/